Habit-forming goes hand in hand with success. There’s no ‘if’s’ or
‘buts’ on this one; it is essential to create solid habits that align
with your values for you to make a success in whatever area of your life
you wish. Creating habits that will serve you is all well and good, but
have you ever honesty sat down and assessed the areas that might be
holding you back?
It’s almost as if you are sitting in your car, foot firmly pressing
down the accelerator, but you are going nowhere. Until you release the
handbrake you are not going to move. Bad habits are your handbrake and
for every great idea you will need to release the handbrake. Below are
15 habits that are currently holding you back from getting exactly where
you want to go.
1.Waiting for the right moment
There never really is a right moment, so waiting around for one is
pretty much a waste of your time You have to pick your moment – the one
that suits the direction you want to go in right here, right now.
Waiting for the right moment can be disguised as procrastination, or if
I may say so, fear. If you live true to your values then every moment
should be acted on within the best of your interests. In every second of
each day you have total control of each moment so aim to make each one
fit right with you. Be aware, take the opportunity and create, create,
create.
2. Needing approval from others
Once you understand that you are responsible for everything that has
come and gone in your life you’ll realise that everything from here
onwards depends on you as well. Taking action and having faith in your
own decisions will make you a leader and therefore will not wait around
for the opinion and approval from others.
3. The need to always be perfect
Striving for perfection is almost a form of self-harm. It’s like
being that dog in the cartoons chasing its tail. It’ll never happen,
because perfection doesn’t exist. Think about it: when is anything ever
perfect? Life is always yin and yang so you have to accept that striving
for perfection can be damaging to your success. It brings with it
unhappiness as there is always ‘something else to do’ when at times its
better to be proud of your achievements thus far.
4. Too stubborn to let go
Ideas will come and go, so will good people, business colleagues,
employees, partners… but for your creativity to blossom you have to find
a way to allow these things to leave your universe as easy as they came
in to it. Nothing lasts forever so learn that letting go will allow you
the freedom of thought to make better of your life and move you further
in the direction of success. Be careful not to create an emotional
attachment to things, as they will become harder to let go. Know that
the person, idea or whatever you are holding on to does not define you
so there is not need need to cling to it. Lose the emotion, lose the
stubbornness and make way for the new.
5. Not apologizing for making mistakes
Apologizing can really hurt your pride, right? Admitting liability
for things gone wrong is not something that we are too comfortable with.
What about stepping out of your comfort zone and having a look around
you? The people you value the most, and have the best connection with,
are the ones that are honest and open to you. If you want to move on in
business and in life and want to be respected learn that apologizing for
your mistakes is vital in moving forward. People respect honesty and
any trust barriers will be broken.
6. Not learning from people “less” than you
I was once told by good friend that “everyone has something to offer”
and at times when I’ve felt like like I haven’t needed input from
anyone else I have reminded myself of this and allowed myself to open my
mind. The truth is there is no one “less” than you and once you accept
that your stubbornness will disappear. This doesn’t mean you have to
take in everything that everyone says, but listen and give people your
time as you may find that you will discover a little diamond of
information that you just needed.
7. Not willing to do something beyond your duties
A little more effort goes a long way. You’ve heard the saying “you
get out what you put in” right? Well it’s true, and you’ll find that
those that are super successful do not sit around and revel in their
accomplishments, they are always figuring out how they can do more and
continue excelling. This also extends to stepping out of your comfort
zone a little and surprising yourself by doing something you don’t
usually do. You’ll feel great about it too, and it’ll become addictive.
8. Spending too long worrying about the outcome
We all worry at times but letting worry take over you is not going to
propel your success. There is only so much in your control so you can
do something about it but there are many things that are out of your
control and therefore will not serve you to worry about. put in the
hard work and from there onwards relax and let be what will be. if you
worry you will clog up your brain power and lose your creativity to
continue your creative work.
9. Comparing yourself to others
Success should be a personal matter. Each individual should define
what success means to them and you have to be doing that yourself. Find
what’s important to you and what success looks and feels like to you and
be in total control of that feeling. Looking at others and always
knocking yourself down because you haven’t achieved what they have or
own what they own is unnecessary. You have your divine right to create
the kind of success that you have worked for.
10. Not assessing your mistakes
Mistakes are part of life; we all know that, but if you’re making the
same ones over and over again don’t you think that there is something
going seriously wrong? It’s time to assess your mistakes honestly. Break
them down and ask yourself honest questions, first of all why they may
be happening and why you didn’t act differently from last time. This
will help you find better solutions for the future.
11. Not working on your weaknesses
I’m sorry to break the headline news to you, but yes, you have
weaknesses. That’s a great thing, though, because for every weakness,
you have a strong area. Once you identify your weak areas spend a short
amount of time each day working on ways to improve them. For example, if
you know you need to improve your anatomy knowledge for your work,
spend 15-20 minutes a day reading up on areas that you find difficult to
understand and slowly but surely you will gain a much better
understanding of what you need to learn.
12. Spending too long doing the things you don’t like doing
Is this contradictory of the point above? It certainly isn’t. What
I’m getting at here is different to point 11. If doing your accounts
drives you mad and takes up far too much of your valuable time, then
hire an accountant and the job will be done properly. People often think
about the expense of getting others to do work for them but trust in
others’ expertise and let your mind focus on the things that you do
well.
13. Taking life too seriously
Life can get you down for sure, but when you feel like the world is
caving in on you remember how wonderful life is and think about all the
great people and moments that have contributed in bringing you to where
you are today. Remember when you were a child and you used to run around
with youthful exuberance free of pain, stress and worry? Sure we have a
lot more on our agendas as adults, but bring yourself back to that
feeling of freedom because at any one time when you feel yourself
sinking you have the freedom to take off and act upon making things
better. Your success is important, but you have full control of making
of it what you wish. Smile more, love more and great things will
inadvertently come your way.
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