Guys. We love you, but some of the expectations you have of us,
girls, range from bluntly absurd to rather mean. Just like you, we’re
face the same limitations that are posed on us by being human.
If you stop expecting the next 8 things, our whole relationships may go onto the next quality level!
1. We cannot look hot without taking no time to get ready.
Do you realize that even those “effortless, I just got out of bed
look” requires hours of careful preparation – blow dry, face tone,
mascara, bronzer, etc. Don’t pace nervously around the room, sighing for
the tenth time, looking at your watch and moaning: “Are you ready,
yet?”. Most of us were not born so naturally good-looking as you are. So
sit down and wait if you’d like us to look gorgeous as hell.
2. We can’t be skinny and curvy at the same time.
Yes, most of you want a girl with “that” perfect body type – slim,
but not skinny; soft, but not fat. With curves in the right places and
zero anywhere else. Sorry guys, but your ideal body expectations are
surreal for 99% of female population. And that divine 1% might never
want to date with you, unless you are Ryan Gosling, Cristiano Ronaldo,
or someone equally hot. Appreciate the body we have and we will love you
that much more.
3. We won’t stop dating other people unless we are official
Just too many guys these days falsely assume that while they are
still playing the field, hooking up, and going on dates with other
girls, we would show the outmoded notion of chivalry and sit at home,
patiently waiting for your call. That will likely not gonna happen until
we become official. Until you are clear about your expectations, we
will continue keeping our options open!
4. We won’t stop being friends with our male buddies
Yes, we are together now and we may be in love, but that absolutely
doesn’t mean we should banish our male friends. They have been around
for decades before you, supporting and helping us expecting nothing in
return! If you expect that now you will be the only man in our life, you
are very wrong. Having male friends for a girl is all right and you
should deal with it. Men are 50% of the population and some of them are
friends with women.
5. We can’t read your mind
As a man, you are likely not used to spilling out all your feelings
and troubles. We get that. You are not used to complaining. You don’t
want to appear weak and so on. But if something really bothers you – we
want to know! We can see you are being passive-aggressive so something
must be wrong. Yet, in most cases we cannot read your mind and magically
guess the reason. Instead of playing an evening game of charade with
questions like: “Did something happen at work yesterday?”, “Did you
fight with Joe?”, “Is your Mom feeling well”? and so on, just tell us
what’s wrong! We’d really appreciate that.
6. We can’t call you less and more at the same time
Yes, you don’t like us to be that annoying gal who rings you up ten
times a day and texts in between the calls. Sure, no man likes
overwhelming attention. That makes you feel creepy. Yet, at the same
time, if we do not call you often enough, you just assume we are not
that into you. Work with us to find the fine line that is not too much,
not too little, but just right.
7. Werarely make an exception in our rules for you
Most of us have these small rules when it comes to dating: “no
kissing on the first date”, “the 5 date rule”, and so on. Those rules
exist in a woman’s mind for a reason. We don’t want to feel cheap or
used. We don’t want to get hurt or become too close before we get to
know each other well enough. If you are, indeed, “worth it”, we’ll break
the rules without any extra encouragement from your side.
8. We can’t be casual and emotional all at once
Guys, we sometimes don’t mind having just a casual physical
connection and not being in a relationship. Yet, if you “don’t really
look for a relationship right now,” then we don’t really look to deal
with your emotional issues, go to brunch together or give an advice of
what to say at a job interview. If this is “just sex,” just have sex
with us, but don’t bring in your emotional baggage and false
expectations in tow.
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