THE PEER EFFECT
Have you ever been in a situation,where you desire or want anything that others want,even if it was not on your mind at that moment?
Ever lived a life where you do not know what you want until others want it for you.
Or ever wanted for it for themselves and then it struck you that you need it too.
That is called the "PEER EFFECT".
Though I must admit that name, word or syndrome occurred to me when I noticed I had a friend that will always roll her eyes up when she heard someone say they missed a cupcake, would reach out to her wallet when she heard someone is going to buy roasted meat and will jump up when someone is going to buy a soda.
Is this a good thing or a bad thing??
Is it hereditary or a thing that just happens?? (Did I just call it a thing, is it?)
That is when I reached out and learn more about people that are easily inspired or influenced by other people.
Mind you saying that they are inspired sparks more positive energy than saying that they are influenced.
How is it a good thing?
Well probably because without being inspired by others one will live in total isolation with no personality because most of our characters are based on imprint we have on each other and so without you imprinting anything on anyone or anyone imprinting anything on you that calls for isolation with no shared interests or joy. What is life if all you have is lonely joy.
If whatever that is brought by peer effect makes you climb a step higher on your success ladder (whatever your goals are ) then go for it. But if it makes pulls you a step behind towards becoming a better you (Or it is not the good REAL YOU) then let it go. learn self control and remember our actions are what make us.
And most importantly your mindset is what is important. Tune it well and all will be well.
On the crazy brighter side of this. Being influenced is just assigning responsibility to someone or something for our actions.
You do not have to be accountable for your choices, if someone else influenced me. It works legally too sometimes as one of the elements of a contract are competency and capacity.
To my friend, if those people make you go broke, ask them for help. Y? They made you go broke. If the doctor tells you you need to gym up cause of the meat, They should work out with you as well. You support them in their decisions, they should support you too when they go side ways on you too.
Ever lived a life where you do not know what you want until others want it for you.
Or ever wanted for it for themselves and then it struck you that you need it too.
That is called the "PEER EFFECT".
Though I must admit that name, word or syndrome occurred to me when I noticed I had a friend that will always roll her eyes up when she heard someone say they missed a cupcake, would reach out to her wallet when she heard someone is going to buy roasted meat and will jump up when someone is going to buy a soda.
Is this a good thing or a bad thing??
Is it hereditary or a thing that just happens?? (Did I just call it a thing, is it?)
That is when I reached out and learn more about people that are easily inspired or influenced by other people.
Mind you saying that they are inspired sparks more positive energy than saying that they are influenced.
How is it a good thing?
Well probably because without being inspired by others one will live in total isolation with no personality because most of our characters are based on imprint we have on each other and so without you imprinting anything on anyone or anyone imprinting anything on you that calls for isolation with no shared interests or joy. What is life if all you have is lonely joy.
If whatever that is brought by peer effect makes you climb a step higher on your success ladder (whatever your goals are ) then go for it. But if it makes pulls you a step behind towards becoming a better you (Or it is not the good REAL YOU) then let it go. learn self control and remember our actions are what make us.
And most importantly your mindset is what is important. Tune it well and all will be well.
On the crazy brighter side of this. Being influenced is just assigning responsibility to someone or something for our actions.
You do not have to be accountable for your choices, if someone else influenced me. It works legally too sometimes as one of the elements of a contract are competency and capacity.
To my friend, if those people make you go broke, ask them for help. Y? They made you go broke. If the doctor tells you you need to gym up cause of the meat, They should work out with you as well. You support them in their decisions, they should support you too when they go side ways on you too.
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